The Story so Far

Dear Readers,

This is my 1st post, so where should I start hum.. Well I guess I will start from the beginning. My name is Mandy, I married my soon to be ex husband on September 13th 2009 we where married, 6 months then I found out I was pregnant in February. We where both excited at the time and scared to death. Things started to change, my husband started turning into a completely different person from the one I married, he would spend more time at his parents then with me. He was adamant that my baby was going to be a boy and that he was not going to change diapers or get up in the middle of the night to feed the baby. Once I suggested that we should start picking out names encase the baby turned out to be a girl and he got mad and said the following “WE ARE NOT GOING TO HAVE A GIRL, THAT BABY HAS TO BE A BOY!!” , I said nothing else about a girl.

When I turned 4 months pregnant I had bladder infections, I was working as a Security Officer at a Trash Dump, I had to work 7 to 14 hours with no access to a rest room or water. My husband and his family wanted me to quit my job, my doctor suggested that I quit, she did not put this in writing. My husband acted like what she said was the gospel and that I had to quit my job he put pressure on me to quit so even though I knew we could not afford for me to quit I gave in and quit my job. Suddenly everyone wants me to get another job, when being close to 5 months pregnant no one would hire me. Me and my husband argued this issue for many weeks. He then went to his Aunts for week to look for work, before going he asked my dad and my step mom if during the week he was away if I could say with them because I was having dizzy spells and he was afraid I would fall or something being their by my self. During that week it was a constant fight over the phone about me looking for a job when over 40 people told me that no one would hire me because of my pregnancy, but my husband and his family would not believe me. Then to add insult to injury I go to the big Dr Appointment where I was to find out the sex. My Husband did not show up to the appointment, The doctor told me through ultrasound that I was going to have a girl. I call my father in law and told him to have my husband call me because I had important news to tell him about the baby. When my husband called I told him the news and well I thought we worked everything out and everything was going to be okay, until the next morning when he called me and told me he wanted a divorce, but he would always be there for me and the baby and that I could come and get my belongings anytime. Well as you can imagine I was devastated I had to wait till I could get my uncle to come and help me with my stuff because he had a truck and could help me lift stuff. I had finally got a day when I could come down and get my stuff so I text my husband and told him what day I was coming, he refused to let me come and then told me he had changed the locks.

I had to get an attorney, and she gave me some bad advise so we went to court, my father n law got up in court grand standing hugging people and shaking hands with people who where in the audience waiting for their cases to be herd. He then started saying he had nude pictures of me which I never posed for I don't believe in that crap anyway. My lawyer told me it looked like picture that where taken with out my knowledge. That hurt me badly, I started crying and my Aunts and my lawyer had to calm me down. The case was postponed because the judge knew my father n law, but I did get a date to when I could come down and get my stuff. Which some of my stuff I never got back.

When it was time for the next court date, my lawyer called me and told me that the case was being postponed again because my husband and his lawyer wanted to get my medical records, I was frustrated and I just dropped the case. My lawyer should have advised me not to do so because 3 weeks later I got papers filled with false accusations about me and him demanding a paternity test. When he knew how I felt about cheating and new I would never to such a thing. I tried repeatedly to get a hold of my lawyer but she was never available or would never call me back. I then had to fire her and get a new one. Now that was a daunting task. It took me forever to find someone who would represent me. But thanks to my uncle I was able to get one. That pretty much brings you all up to date an the whole divorce. 

On my next post I am going to tell you more about my pregnancy and about my baby and I hope to also show you some sonogram pics and a video. Sorry this post is so long but I am hoping to find someone who is or has gone through a the same type of situation.


Thanks for taking the time to read this blog.

Mandy
Sammy's Mom